Living for real

Perception is projection

Every night, my sons and I spend about 45 minutes sitting and cuddling on my bed talking about everything from how their day went to what’s going on in their wonderful worlds. Last night Taariq told me that one of his friend’s parents are getting divorced and that he reassured his friend that everything will be okay although it might be a tough road to get there. Rayhan on the other hand was quick to jump to the conclusion that there must be something wrong with the father since this is already his second marriage and therefore his second divorce. He said “OMG! AGAIN? There’s definitely something wrong with that man!” Continue reading “Living for real”

We are the sanctuary to eternal LOVE

Girl on the mountain

There are so many things that I want to write about right now. Time, the wisdom of youth, the power of communication, relationships, love, silence, all those special people I met recently, unexpected gifts of kindness I’ve received continuously lately, my latest travels, the men I’ve loved, the softness of my children’s hearts, the fresh smell of green earth and trees, the soft squishy sinking feeling of mud underneath my feet, the blessings of good health & precious friendships and all the constant opportunities I am lucky to get to help others around me.

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How to Find Inner Peace

Lately in my journey of personal growth I have started observing interesting phenomena, which has been most welcoming to me. Previously when I was told something which seemed unfair or just plain outright wrong, the thoughts in my mind would take over completely and rush to qualify the event and tell stories about it, almost fueling the incident and making it seem bigger than it actually was. Invariably, this was followed by an instant emotional reaction where I could literally feel my insides contracting and lurching forward in resistance. This inner feeling almost felt like a raging fire craving to destroy everything in its path – it had a strong aggressive and violent element to it. 


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The art of letting go

Last night I lit a fire and spent a few hours just looking at it, listening to the sounds of burning wood, and the thing that struck me was how easily fire surrendered to the rest of nature’s forces. It let itself go completely in the direction the wind was blowing, with the submission of someone jumping off a cliff. Not a single ounce of resistance!


What I also realized is that as the wood started burning, it didn’t just burn on the surface. The wood was completely overtaken by this amazing natural element and started burning from within, with a passion and a desire to let itself go and accept its fate come what may.

As I listened to the quiet enchanting sounds of the crackling crispy roasting wood, I was reminded how nature, plants, animals, clouds and wind all surrendered, with absolutely no inhibitions whatsoever, in a manner of complete faith that is meant to be will indeed be.

I reflected on how we ourselves sometimes struggle to surrender – we fight the urge to let go for reasons ranging from the psyche’s walls, fear and self protection, the need to belong or simply due to lack of insight. But what we seem to forget is that perfection is already here within us – we are created by a force greater than our imagination can behold. A deep mysterious force that stems from purity and perfection itself.
Every single part of nature, the combinations of colours, textures, sounds, smells and plants, animals are all perfectly matched and balanced resulting in a flawless canvas of what life is, and what it’s meant to be.
The passion with which that fire burnt, the warmth it emanated, the submission of the flames all reminded me of what Rumi meant when he said that whatever we search for we already have, we just need to return to our souls to find the answers that reside in our hearts. The world is within us, as we are within it. We are made up of every single atom that makes up every single part of the Universe. We are One with the rest of Everything.
So surrender freely, trust what may come, believe in what is, and search for the treasures we are capable of finding. It is all out there… burning with a fire of passion and submission.
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Rumi Quotes in association with Nasseema Taleb.

Walking through Pain

It turns out that we are in control of absolutely nothing. Whatever pain and suffering we have to go through we have to bear it with patience and humility.

To feel pain in its truest and purest form, we must accept and surrender completely, so that we may allow ourselves to feel it to its utmost depth, until we feel every little sharp cut in our hearts. It is pointless trying to hide from pain, as it invariably comes back to you eventually – and usually with a passionate vengeance.
So as part of cultivating our intelligence and building the strength to walk through all the windstorms that life sends our way, pain can be an opportunity for us to develop emotional and spiritual muscles along an unveiling journey. After all, it is through pain and suffering that we learn to grow a deep heart.
It is said that out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls, and that the greatest characters are seared with scars. We are healed of grief only by experiencing it to the fullest. So in beautiful silences and immense patience, we continue our journeys.
As Rumi says;
“If you desire healing,
  let yourself fall ill
  let yourself fall ill.”
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Rumi Quotes in association with Nasseema Taleb.


In Search of One

The value of choosing to be alone is not one that everyone can understand. A lot of people misunderstand it as being unsocial, or reserved, or shy or lonely. But being alone doesn’t mean you don’t want company – it only means you need time to recharge your batteries. Recharging is an important part of rejuvenating your biological, mental and emotional cells – above all your spiritual cells.

You see…. Being alone gives you the space and the time to observe the ripples in the water, it allows you to see how each little ripple is connected to a wider circle of life… all moving in an endless circular motion, reflecting the nature of the universe – as everything in the universe spins in a circular motion. A seamless circular movement in which one can get utterly lost and entranced in its perfection.

So there are a few things which came to my mind recently. First of all it’s the acceptance that not everyone is heading in the same direction spiritually. I mean of course I knew that intellectually, but I guess I always assumed that eventually every single person out there would consciously or unconsciously seek to move to the ultimate direction which we are all magnetically pulled towards – the Ultimate Universal Source.
But it is not the case. Many of us are lost in our own little bubbles of the surface reality we’ve created for ourselves that we have forgotten the capacity to seek for higher meanings. Age it seems is not a determining factor after all – one can be old in age but oblivious at heart. The mind plays very clever games with us – it sometimes leads us to believe that changing our thoughts is enough – but actually even our thoughts are part of the psyche, which is in itself a part of the larger subconscious. So imagine if we were able to see behind the psyche?
The second thing I realized lately is that two spiritual seekers can be seeking the same thing, but in completely ways, from completely different angles. So it made me question… is seeking primarily from the heart, or from the intellect? Is the heart first that matters in the process seeking, after which the mind follows suit. Or is it the other way round? I seek from the heart, but maybe I am wrong and casting an incorrect judgment on those who seek differently from me. I guess there is no one single way of seeking.
Someone I know recently said to me that he is seeking too – yet his search and his methods seem completely different to mine. However the one thing that we do have in common is the willingness to understand what our minds alone cannot comprehend. And that is unmistakably recognizable from miles. The Aware are easy to spot amongst a crowd of colour. So my next goal is to learn other methods of seeking from different types of seekers. Now that I am conscious that there is no one way, or a specific age, or a specific time or place. The only thing that matters in true seeking is purity of heart and Awareness.
Finally the last thing I realized is that a true seeker can never remain too long in the company of a non-seeker. They can cross paths and befriend each other temporarily, but eventually the one questing for something of a higher purpose will have to move on and leave non seekers behind. It is the nature of life. A seeker craves for silence, craves for the mental, emotional and spiritual space that will allow them to understand.
And with that, I continue my search.

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Rumi Quotes in association with Nasseema Taleb